Here is what I did aftere weeks of problems and after having to by the Harley Cardo Packtalk Edge Head Set and syncing only the headset to the bike. Not the Phone.
1, With everything off sit on the bike with Bluetooth OFF on your cell phone.
2. Turn on the head set.
3. turn on the bike
4. wait for the bike and the headset to link and confirm (not quick)
5. plug phone into bike and wait for Apple Carplay to start. (also not quick)
Note: if needed, check to make sure that the audio output settings are set to headset and not speakers.
1, With everything off sit on the bike with Bluetooth OFF on your cell phone.
2. Turn on the head set.
3. turn on the bike
4. wait for the bike and the headset to link and confirm (not quick)
5. plug phone into bike and wait for Apple Carplay to start. (also not quick)
Note: if needed, check to make sure that the audio output settings are set to headset and not speakers.